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The Big Reveal

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A beautiful spine

We tried to find out your gender a week ago and we were all excited to tell our family and friends. We were getting ready to see my parents the next day and were planning a perfect way to surprise them with the announcement in person. But then you moved around too much for the doctor to be able to see and we were left waiting for another week.

We were a little bit disappointed, but then I realized that it just gave us another week with something to look forward to.

This morning we went to St. Luke’s Roosevelt Hospital for the anatomy ultrasound and after a few anxious moments, we found out that you’re no longer just our little baby. You’re our little baby girl!

Looks like you have mommy's nose

Mommy has been thinking all along that you would be a girl. I don’t know if it’s because she wanted a girl, or if it’s because of all the old wives’ tales or if it was just a mother-daughter connection, but she was sure of it all along. The only moment of hesitation was last night when she had a clear-as-day dream that you were a boy. But I immediately dismissed that because when your cousin Gavin was about to be born, mommy had a dream that he would be an Asian genius.

As for me, I’ve been completely split about whether I wanted a boy or a girl first. Part of me wanted a boy because I think that’s what all guys want first. A boy as the oldest child can protect his younger sister(s). But part of me wanted a girl because there aren’t any other granddaughters in the family. If you were a boy, you would be the fourth one on the Barnes side.

Once I found out that you are a girl, however, I was ecstatic. You’re daddy’s little girl and I can’t wait to raise you and teach you all about life and Michigan football and boys and everything else.

Obviously, since I’ve never been in this position before, I can’t speak from experience, but it seems that there’s something more special to a father about a daughter than a son. I like the way that the politician and writer from the 1600-1700s, Joseph Addison, put it: “Certain is it that there is no kind of affection so purely angelic as of a father to a daughter. In love to our wives there is desire; to our sons, ambition; but to our daughters, there is something which there are no words to express.”

No words to express, and yet here I am trying to write about what it will be like to raise you. I know that a young girl is so delicate and precious and it’s a huge responsibility as a father to raise her in a way that allows her to flourish. While it’s a huge responsibility, I can’t wait to dive in and take on that responsibility head-first.

There are those kicking legs

A part of me is reflecting on the kind of world I’m bringing you into. A world in which terrorism has forever changed the way we go about our daily lives. A world in which millions of people are struggling to find jobs and hold onto their homes. A world in which our president cares more about his own celebrity than the safety and well-being of our country. And yet, with all of the peril we face right now, I can’t wait until you’re born so I can show you all of the beautiful parts of life.

In what I think should be one of the top albums of 2010, the Arcade Fire sings, “So can you understand why I want a daughter while I’m still young? I wanna hold her hand and show her some beauty before all this damage is done…”

That’s how I feel right now. I can’t wait to show you the sunrise or the ocean. I can’t wait to teach you how to love and to dance with you at your wedding. And above all, I can’t wait to be your dad.

20 Weeks and Halfway Home

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Well, baby Potts, it’s been three weeks since I’ve written you, but I promise you haven’t been forgotten. It has been a busy three weeks.

Last Thursday, we were supposed to find out if you’re a boy or a girl, but you were having none of it. You were moving around so much that the doctor wasn’t able to tell on the ultrasound. She said if she had to guess, she would say girl, but that’s just a guess. We have another appointment this Thursday, which is an anatomy ultrasound, so we will find out for sure then.

Of course it won’t change how much I love you, but I can’t wait to find out what we have to look forward to. All signs seem to be pointing towards girl, and even though I’ve been saying all along that I’m hoping for a boy, the thought of a girl is really exciting. You’ll be the first girl in either of our families.

It has been really fun the past few days to feel you kicking. Mommy can feel you all the time now and if I put my hand on her belly, I can sometimes feel too. I think you’re going to be a soccer player just like me! It’s pretty crazy to think that you’re inside her belly in a sack of water and the size of a cantaloupe with body parts that are still developing, and yet you’re able to kick hard enough for us to feel it on the outside. How truly amazing the whole process of birth is.

Looking like an alien at 19 Weeks

This past weekend, we were in French Lick, Ind. for the wedding of a good family friend, Kayla Seaman. Her dad, Rick, was my dad (your grandpa)’s college roommate, and the Seaman kids, as well as another family, the Beadles, grew up together like cousins. They were some of our best friends growing up, closer even than some of our family. Jared Seaman, who is three years older than me, and his wife are about a week farther along than we are in their pregnancy, and one of the Beadle kids, Cameron, and his wife are expecting shortly after we are. So our parents are all becoming grandparents at the same time. I hope that we can continue the Potts, Seaman, Beadle tradition with you, or at least have other great friends that we can raise you with.

During the wedding was a very touching moment in a tribute to Rick, who passed away 12 years ago. They showed a video of home movies that he made of his kids while they were growing up…getting ready to go on vacation, etc. The most touching part was the end when he was filming Kayla on her first day of school with her backpack and dancing around on the driveway. You could just feel the love and admiration he had for her. It really made me long to be the kind of father he was, and I hope I can be like that for you.

Well, we are now halfway through the pregnancy and mommy is really starting to show. We will find out your gender on Thursday, as well as get all the tests done to make sure you’re as healthy as can be. I’m going to Denver this weekend for work for the Broncos-Chiefs game, so I’m looking forward to that, but not about leaving mommy alone for the weekend. The next weekend I’ll be in Minneapolis, but that should be the last of my work traveling for a while. Then we’ll be into the holidays and the home stretch until you’re born!

Take care!

18 Weeks and a Note from Mom

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This week will be a little bit different because it’s the first pregnancy pic with an actual background (the beautiful view of the Hudson River from the park right by our apartment) and we have a surprise guest…Carrie! She wanted to take a week to post her thoughts to Pablo, so here she is:

Hello Sweet Baby-

I decided it was time to say hello, and give you a little insight into life from my perspective 🙂  So far, you and I have been getting along pretty well, but when you don’t enjoy something I eat you make it clear–which is fair I suppose, since you most likely get your picky eating habits from me. 

I find myself becoming more and more protective of you as we get closer and closer to meeting you, and you really start to feel real.  I haven’t felt you move yet, but when we went to the Dr. last week your heartbeat was beating perfectly at 140 beats/minute, so it will be only a matter of time till you flip over hard enough for me to feel it.  I’m not going to lie, I really can’t wait for that!  I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it will be like to actually meet you on your birthday, and your dad and I have made the decision to switch hospitals.  Now you’ll be born at St. Luke’s Roosevelt hospital in NYC rather than NYU.  We switched so that we could deliver at the Birthing Center.  We’re not very “granola” people at all, but we are adopting some more granola habits when it comes to you.  Who knows, maybe this is a sign of things to come.  I mean come on I gave up caffeine….me, who got a job a Starbucks in grad school because I couldn’t afford my habit so I needed the discount!! Everybody tells us how our lives will change dramatically once you come along and rock our worlds, and I know they’re right–I’ve seen it in your Uncle Kent and Aunt Lisanne’s lives, but it’s different when it’s your own life.

My mom and dad (Nana and Pappy) were here this weekend and we all realized this was our “last hoorah” before we add you to the mix.  We enjoyed lots of leisurely meals and naps in the middle of the day–2 things I know will be gone this time next year.  I’m excited to see how our lives change and how we adapt once you join the family.  I think about that a lot–how my and your dad’s roles will change and it makes me so excited to see a whole new side of your dad.  He’s amazing with your cousins and he’s so excited about you–he kisses my belly goodbye before work each day and it’s adorable.

We keep talking about what kind of things we want to do with you, and of course at the top of our list is introducing you to the wonderful world of football.  Now, you are going to be born into a bit of a firestorm: I love Notre Dame, Dad loves Michigan, and Grandpa Potts loves Ohio State.  This is a recipe for disaster my dear.  Don’t worry though, we’ll keep you on the straight and narrow towards the golden dome of the Irish.  This is a major source of contention in your dad and I’s conversations, but I just keep playing the “I am creating life, I choose the team” card….It’s not working, it’s going to be an uphill battle 🙂  Just remember–I got up 30 minutes early so I’d have time to get sick and still make it to work on time–keep that in mind when you’re choosing which jersey to wear.  I’m just sayin…

But I must say, regardless of your college football team status, you’re ours and I will love you forever.  4 years ago I couldn’t have imagined saying that, but then I met your cousin Gavin, and that changed.  Oh my gosh how I love that little man.  Then his brother Eldon joined the mix and at first I wasn’t sure I had enough love for him since I loved Gavin so much–I couldn’t imagine loving 2 kids that much.  And then I met Eldon and now my heart aches when I see pictures of either of them.  And then sweet James came along and it’s a minor miracle I’m not back in Chicago every weekend to kiss his sweet cheeks.  Now I’m going to have you–a piece of me and your dad, and that is the most incredible thing I can imagine.  I love your dad more than words can possibly express, and knowing that we are going to have something that we made together makes my heart so full I think it might burst.  I know that sounds cheesy but there is no other way to put it.  I feel so blessed I think my heart may overflow with gratitude.

I love you sweet baby, and I cannot wait until November 4th to find out if your a boy or girl!!!  By the way, if you could do me a favor and give me a little kick or a flip here in the next few days that would be great–I’m just sayin….

Love you-

Mom

Week 16 Likes Guacamole

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Well, it’s the beginning of the 16th week, and you’re now the size of an avocado. I guess that makes sense because we had mommy’s famous guacamole yesterday with, you guess it, tacos. Seriously, I can’t wait for you to be old enough to try her guac, because it’s amazing.

So now you’re about 4-5 inches long and you’re able to move your arms and legs now. My book says that you’re about to start playing soccer with mom’s organs, so hopefully you’re good at scoring goals. It also says your ears are now able to hear our voices, so hopefully you were asleep during the Michigan-Michigan State game yesterday because I may have said a few bad words. It was Michigan’s first loss of the season and we played pretty poorly, so I wasn’t happy.

Also, your eyebrows, eyelashes, and hair are starting to fill in and your taste buds are forming so soon you’ll be able to taste the tacos.

The size of the baby

Mommy is really convinced that you’re a girl…only because of wives tales, like fast heartbeat, bad morning sickness, and carrying you low in her belly. She also had a dream that you were a girl, but we can’t really trust that, since she had a dream that Gavin was going to be an Asian genius. He might turn out to be a genius, but he certainly doesn’t look Asian to me.

We should find out in a couple of weeks whether you’re a boy or a girl, so I can’t wait! We have our next doctor’s appointment next Thursday and there’s a chance we could find out then, so we’ll see.

I’m traveling next weekend for work, so we might not have a Week 17 picture. I’ll be Washington, D.C. for the Colts-Redskins Sunday night game. Verizon is doing a promotion for NFL RedZone because it’s becoming half price that day, so we’re doing activations at the Redskins, Giants, and Patriots games that day. I’m in charge of coordinating the Redskins activation. I’m looking forward to seeing a game in the largest stadium in the NFL, FedEx Field. Plus, it’s against the Colts, so it should be fun.

Keep growing!

11 Weeks and Moving Ears

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Ten weeks down, 30 to go. We’re a fourth of the way to meeting you, little one. My book tells me that you’re now two inches long (twice as long as two weeks ago when we saw you on the ultrasound!) and your head is still half the size of your body, which means that your head is now the same size as your entire body was two weeks ago! It also says that your ears are moving into their final location…just in time to start listening to The Victors (Michigan’s fight song).

Speaking of The Victors, Michigan won its opening game on Saturday 30-10 over UConn. Denard Robinson dominated, running for 197 yards and throwing for 185. It was a great first game for you to experience, although mommy made you suffer through the Notre Dame-Purdue game. This weekend we will have a divided house as Michigan and Notre Dame play each other. I would try to make a bet with mommy that whoever wins is who gets your fanhood, but she knows she’ll lose that bet and she’s still holding out hope that you’ll go to the dark side.

Buddy in Central Park

Today we spent the entire day at Central Park with Buddy and mommy’s cousin Travis. It was a perfect day and nice to just relax and enjoy some good old fashioned people-watching. As we were getting ready to leave, a couple of ladies came over with their dog and little boy.

 Buddy and the other dog were playing with each other and the little boy, who was 18 months old, was definitely not afraid of dogs…he kept jumping in the middle of them and petting them. I can’t wait until you can play with Buddy.

I’m going to Buffalo next weekend to kick off the Buffalo Bills season, so it should be a fun one!

Ten Weeks and No Tail

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Well, we’re entering the 10th week and all of your vital organs should now be formed. Yay lungs, liver, kidneys and intestines! Your eyes are also developed and eyelids are forming. Your fingers and toes are starting to separate and now your tail is gone! That’s right, you’re less like Buddy and more like our baby!

Today I was watching the Barclays golf tournament and Matt Kuchar beat Martin Laird in a playoff. After Kuchar sunk the clinching putt, his little boy ran out onto the green to hug him. Then his wife came out with their other little kid strapped to her tummy. I can’t wait for you to be old enough to go golfing with me. Obviously I won’t be winning PGA tournaments, but I love golf and I’ve always really enjoyed golfing with my dad, so I can’t wait to introduce you to the game.

Mommy and I just announced to the world that you’re coming and it has been exciting to hear everybody’s reaction. You’ll be the first grandkid on the Potts and Bush sides and the fourth on the Barnes side, so everybody is excited for your arrival in six and-a-half months.

Right now I’m watching the Steelers and Broncos preseason game on Sunday Night Football. The Steelers are my parents’ favorite team, but I don’t care for them except for LaMarr Woodley who played at Michigan. I wonder which NFL team you’ll be a fan of. College football starts this week, so it should be a fun week! Stay healthy!

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